He has refused to commit, what do I do about it?

Happy people, here is my special post on relationship. Love is a beautiful thing. Enjoy!

I am 32 years old and my life isn’t where I envisioned it to be. My career hasn’t moved the way I expected it to and my love life seems stagnant as well. As I teenager, I dreamt of being at the peak of my career and having three kids at 28 years old the latest but today I am still single and I feel like a failure. I have a war with myself over this issue and my married friends and family are not helping either. They keep disturbing me about when I am getting married and this is driving me crazy.

I have not really had good experiences with men in the past. It has been very difficult for me to find the right man and no I am not ugly. I think it is my strong personally that generally drives men or should I say boys away because they are often intimidated by me.

I finally found a real man who was not intimidated by me and we have been dating for four years now. The relationship has been really amazing. He has shown me what true love really means and what it means to be with a real man. He treats me with so much respect and adores me too. 

However, I am concerned about the fact that he hasn’t spoken about taking the relationship to the next level till now. He recently told a friend that he is still watching me and I really don’t know what that means. I have discussed the issue with him severally and he often manages to make it a joke. I don’t want to leave him but I can’t continue like this. I really need to know where we are headed because I am not getting any younger.

As a lady in this type of situation where you date a man for so long and he doesn’t seem to be interested in moving forward, you need to have ‘the talk’ with him. If you love him so much and believe he feels the same way, it helps to talk about it with the man. However, while talking about it, you want to be careful not to sound too desperate because men can’t stand that. Men are generally afraid of commitment because they want their 'freedom'. That should change though because in today’s world, marriage is simply a change of status for most men and not a loss of 'freedom'. Anyway, if the talk doesn’t go anywhere and he is still afraid and you are not bold enough to propose to him, maybe you should move forward on your own because there is no point in wasting your time and life.

Remain happy and spread happiness around and don’t forget that time is one thing that you cannot waste in this life. Xoxo.

Disclaimer: the suggestions in this article are simply my opinion and should not be taken as that of a professional.