"We can have oral sex but no penetration"

I have been trying to find inspiration since morning and it is finally here. My post for today is inspired by a story I just read about a girl that is complaining about losing a nice guy she just met because he attempted to rape her (after she allowed him perform oral sex on her). That is the summary of the story. She also narrated how she visited the guy at his house many times and according to her, they always engaged in oral sex each time she was there. She refused penetration, because she is abstaining from sex and saving herself for her husband. I think it is very interesting that a woman makes such a decision and tries to maintain it.

However, my thing is, if you are abstaining from sex, why do you visit a man in his house and engage in oral sex? Oral sex is also sex so technically; you are having sex and not abstaining. Alright let’s assume you are in a relationship and you really love this man and you just felt like being indoors, why lead him on though when you know you don’t want it? You cannot go dangling a banana before a monkey then decide not to give it to the monkey; that is just you looking for trouble. Actually, you shouldn’t even be visiting a man at home if you don’t want to be harassed sexually. Stay away! It is true that a woman has the ability to control herself and needs a good reason to have sex. On the other hand, all a man needs is a place where he is alone with a woman and his house is the best place.

Like my dear mum always says, “don’t start anything that you know you cannot finish”. I personally try to live by that in order not to expose myself to any risk. While it is true that no man has the right to rape any woman and a woman’s NO means NO, it is also true that a woman has to protect herself from rape. So the next time you meet a guy and all you want from him is the company, try to avoid home visits until you are ready for what that may bring. If you don’t want sex, don’t encourage it. Holding hands is enough to trigger emotions, talk more of making out. Actually, only looking at a woman triggers sexual feelings in men, it is that bad! Therefore, avoid exposing yourself and bringing out the devil in a man by abstaining from anything sexual when you are really abstaining from sex.

Don’t forget to be safe and remain happy. xoxo. 

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