Happy
people, here is my special post on relationship. Love is a beautiful thing. Enjoy!
I am 32 years old and my life isn’t where I envisioned it to
be. My career hasn’t moved the way I expected it to and my love life seems
stagnant as well. As I teenager, I dreamt of being at the peak of my career and
having three kids at 28 years old the latest but today I am still single and I
feel like a failure. I have a war with myself over this issue and my married
friends and family are not helping either. They keep disturbing me about when I
am getting married and this is driving me crazy.
I have not really had good experiences with men in the past. It
has been very difficult for me to find the right man and no I am not ugly. I think it is my
strong personally that generally drives men or should I say boys away because
they are often intimidated by me.
I finally found a real man who was not intimidated by me and
we have been dating for four years now. The relationship has been really
amazing. He has shown me what true love really means and what it means to be with a
real man. He treats me with so much respect and adores me too.
However, I am
concerned about the fact that he hasn’t spoken about taking the relationship to
the next level till now. He recently told a friend that he is still watching me
and I really don’t know what that means. I have discussed the issue with him
severally and he often manages to make it a joke. I don’t
want to leave him but I can’t continue like this. I really need to know where
we are headed because I am not getting any younger.
As a lady in this type of situation where you date a man for so
long and he doesn’t seem to be interested in moving forward, you need to have ‘the
talk’ with him. If you love him so much and believe he feels the same way, it
helps to talk about it with the man. However, while talking about it, you want to
be careful not to sound too desperate because men can’t stand that. Men are
generally afraid of commitment because they want their 'freedom'. That should
change though because in today’s world, marriage is simply a change of status
for most men and not a loss of 'freedom'. Anyway, if the talk doesn’t go anywhere and he is still afraid
and you are not bold enough to propose to him, maybe you should move forward on
your own because there is no point in wasting your time and life.
Remain happy and spread happiness around and don’t forget
that time is one thing that you cannot waste in this life. Xoxo.
Disclaimer: the suggestions in this article are simply my opinion and should not be taken as that of a professional.
1 comment:
What can I say? You need deliverance. Go white garment church let them whip that devil out. Abegi park jor. Everyone has problems. Marriage is not for everyone. Will you marry yourself? Focus on developing yourself. Men are attracted to intelligent women (though they tend to run from powerful ones). Make new friends. Join a church, be active, enjoy life. Even married women are dealing with issues like barrenness and monster-in-laws. Enjoy each stage of your life. YOLO- Newyorker
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