A friend once said to me, "I see you really don't
forgive, neh?" in the middle of a conversation about falsity / cheating in
relationships. At impulse, I said yes. Then I thought about it and rephrased it
in a more appropriate way, "no it’s not that I don't forgive, I just don't
know how to forgive cheating". I really don't know if anyone does. No, I
don't mean staying in the relationship. Rather, I mean staying and keeping
things the way they used to be prior to the sick event. I would really like to
know from anyone who has done this how they do it. How do you carry on with all
that information and betrayal? Some people say you just have to forgive and
move on. But how doable is this? I concluded by telling my friend that I
probably haven't met anyone who's able to make me forgive (even that I'm not
sure) or maybe a better way of putting it would be someone who can help me deal
with the memory.
